Dating in my Late Twenties: My Battle Plan to Make My Meet-Cutes Happen Part 3
The last post of the mini-series where Michelle reviews the final options for navigating her dating life. The clothes she wears in this piece of writing are of the Alternative Fashion consisting of cargo pants, a sheer top, and arm warmers with a hoodie.
Originally, I had planned to only make this series into 2 posts, but I should have known talking about dating apps would get me into a passionate rant. Before I discuss my final two options in dating during this modern age, I will recap what I have found to be disagreeable, and what I find to be useful for me.
Currently, using a dating service or a dating app is just not for me. I can either not find a way to make it work, or I just do not find them to be reasonably useful. What I have found to work out best so far is participating in singles events. The other 2 options I have considered are joining a club, or meeting someone while out in public, and these will be the last 2 options to be covered in this mini-series.
Red lace, sheer top with black zip-up hoodie and black cargo pants
In consideration of my working hours, joining a club, or even taking an adult class for a hobby, is a bit difficult. I work in the evenings during the weekday, and Saturday mornings on the weekend. Throughout my research, I have found this is when most events for anything are happening. There have been some opportunities I have been able to find around my schedule, so I take advantage of them when I can. So even though this is a considerable and fantastic option, I can only implement it so much.
I would imagine out of all the options I have set out for me, this is the best to utilize. What better way to meet someone than in a situation where they are enjoying themselves in one of their passions? For now, though, I will do it when possible and just hope for the best.
Alternative Fashion with black, mesh arm warmers
Meeting someone organically in public is a pretty decent option as well, and it is one I use the most. As I write this, however, what I mean to get across is I actually am present in the public as much as possible, and I only hope for the best. I go to coffee shops the most because I can work there peacefully and sip on a delicious drink, but anytime I am out and about, doing an activity I enjoy, I am aware of possible matches and possible nots.
I have not approached anyone really as my social anxiety usually gets in the way when I find someone cute, but I hope to one day reach out to someone just to say I tried. If I get rejected, I think that is alright because every rejection is closer to a better match, and it is part of the experience as well. I also try not to be a bother, because I understand everyone has something going on and we are all just trying to keep our life going. Someday soon I will find a good opening, and I am going to go for it!
A few times I have been approached myself, and so far a nice conversation has happened. It usually does not lead to anywhere else, but that is alright. Any practice is good practice.
To ease any anxiety I have, wearing clothes I feel comfortable in, like my Alternative Outfit shown in this post, helps a lot. The top is actually a red lace dress, and it is sheer so you can see my black bralette. My pants are black cargo jeans, and for shoes, I have my black Vans. For an accessory, I have on black, mesh arm warmers, and for outerwear, my black, baggy zip-up hoodie.